Friday, 14 October 2016

Of my gratitude and wedding speech

Alhamdulillah, on the 7th October 2016 after Asar prayer, I became a wife to a kind-hearted,  understanding, caring man. Yes, Abang Abdul Rasyid bin Abang Yusop had taken my hand in marriage and I am so grateful that everything turned out well. :)

On the 8th October 2016, we had our reception at Dewan Perdana Felda and I had an opportunity to express my gratitude to all my friends who have crossed path with me all this while. Glad I have attentive audience that night that I could deliver it well, alhamdulillah!

As I really hope I can remember the things I have spoken that night, I would like to share with all of you the content of my speech. :)

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Assalamualaikum wbt and a very good evening everyone.

Hello, I am Afiqah, the bride for today. :) 

I know it is not really a norm for a bride to give a speech in a Malay wedding, but I bet those who know me well are not surprised as I always want to have a few words, and that of course, includes my very own big day.  

So… First and foremost, I would like to personally thank all family and friends from far and near for being here tonight. You all have no idea how much I appreciate your time and effort to be a part of this ceremony.

The day I told my close friends that Rasyid’s family was coming from Kuching to meet my family for merisik, I can vividly remember the joy they shared with me. The excitement that they showed was contagious that I think I almost forgot to feel nervous. I think I know why they were simply excited for me. It’s because I’ve never had anyone special in my life before Rasyid. As expected, my friends gave me some tips on what and what not to do on that day. The best piece of advice that still sticks in my mind would be: “Afiqah, whatever it is, just don’t be yourself.“

Hurm~ I think my friends are just scared that I might end up lonely. :P

Anyway, in all seriousness, I really am thankful to have great companions throughout my life. Since my school days, university days and up till now, my working days, those who have crossed path with me have without a doubt made an impact in my life. Please allow me to thank them as a token of appreciation for being here with us tonight.

To my school friends whom I grew up with, THANK YOU for being the best of friends I could ever have. You guys are the ones who really know and understand me well. My ex-classmates, dormmates, and simply my batchmates, THANK YOU for showing what our worth is to our beloved school, Sekolah Menengah Sains Selangor. We had gone through so much as a batch and all memories during the trying days especially those days without water, and times when we skipped prep petang or main petang, or curi2 praying in the dorm. Those were the beautiful days which I am quite sure we will never forget.

To my friends from Ambang Asuhan Jepun, AAJ, THANK YOU for being such an inspiration to me. Without all of you, I can’t imagine going through the tough days of having quizzes and tests almost everyday, memorizing all the kanji, and finishing the never ending tutorials. YOU guys are the true definition of determination. Without a doubt, getting the opportunity to fly together to Japan is one of the best memories that we created together.

To my favourite people from Kobe University of Japan, you guys are simply amazing. THANK YOU for showing LOVE like a family when our real families were far away back in Malaysia. THANK YOU for the time well spent cooking, makan2, sightseeing and simply just hanging out together at one another’s house sampai tak reti2 nak balik. Watashiwa itsumo minna no tame ni go ryouri wo tsukuru koto wa zettai wasurenai de kudasai!.... Jyoudan tte, wakaru deshou? :p tonikaku, iro iro tatsudatte kurete, arigatou. Minna ga saikou desu. :p

My friends from IB, although I was there for just 3 months, THANK YOU for accepting me as if I was a real stuff working there. I know that most of the time we were just having fun in ‘bilik crew’, but I have learned so much during the short period of time. And oh, THANK YOU for the free tickets to some shows as well, I love you all. <3 font="">

To my friends from King’s College London, you guys simply rock. THANK YOU for all the fun time we shared together. THANK YOU for showing me how much fun a Master’s student can have despite our busy schedule. You guys are the reason I got fat in London, ok! Anyway, I really hope we can materialize our London reunion in the future. :)

Now I am already working in the line of Intellectual Property, I have met so many influential people who have inspired me to become someone in this line in the future. THANK YOU so much for those who have showed me how interesting this line can be. And of course, THANK YOU to my current, as well as ex colleagues, who are super crazy and have been the highlight of my everyday life. YOU guys are the reason why the office is always noisy and never boring.

Last but never the least, my FAMILY. I can never THANK my family enough for simply everything you all have done for me. Since I was just a baby till now that I am a married lady, you are the ones who have never left me, and always believe in me. THANK YOU for your endless support in whatever I do, in my education, profession, and even love life. You all are the sunshine of my life. To all my siblings, thank you for being the best siblings I have ever asked for, for being the shoulder to cry on and for me to pour almost everything on. 

To Ayah and Mummy, I am so blessed to have the both of you as my ever loving and at the same time sporting parents. I know the both of you are always worried of me as I am your little baby girl, but I hope you can keep on praying for me just like how you always do in your prayers, so that Rasyid and I will be anak soleh and solehah, and I, from now on to be a good wife to Rasyid. I love you so much and THANK YOU for raising me.

To my beloved husband, THANK YOU for choosing me as your one and only. I can only say that I am very lucky to finally meet my very own Mr. Right. Let’s make this journey of ours a beautiful one. The one we can always cherish till our end of time. I love you.

And with that, I THANK all of you again. Enjoy the rest of your night!

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 Yuhuuuuu~~ I have a husband already! hehe.. alhamdulillah! :)

Friday, 23 September 2016


Sometimes I really feel like following my heart and just do weird and crazy things. However at the same time, sanity keeps me from doing them.

If I am much younger, I might just do whatever that crosses my mind at a particular time without considering much the consequences.

But now?

Syukurlah saya masih waras.

Sangat waras :D

Wednesday, 14 September 2016

Missing the lights and the blue sky of Minato Mirai

No matter how many times 

 I have been here,

Either with family 

Or with friends,

 I will always want to come here again.

Dear Yokohama, I wil be back. 

One day, InsyaAllah :)

Monday, 12 September 2016


If anyone should know, i will always stand by my principle i.e. I will never tell a lie for the benefit of others.

If I don't know, I shall say I don't know. I am not the type who simply does things to make others happy. Period.

Tuesday, 6 September 2016

I just do not understand when...

People do not give any chance to others to come up with an explanation. 

Of course there are times when we feel like punching someone's face for the stupid things that they have done. Most of the time when we start to get annoyed, we make assumptions that they are basically lazy bumps and merely stupid and childish and never think about others. 

However, I believe that for every single thing that someone has done or hasn't done, there must be a reason to it. Why not start by asking them why they did or did not do such things at the first place? Just let people explain before we start screaming and scare people off their chairs and get repetitive nightmares for 3 consecutive nights due the scolding and swearing (pardon me and my imagination).

Obviously it feels good to lash out our disappointment to someone, especially when we have a bad day. But think again, is it even worth it? Try giving a thought to what the other party might be going through at that time or what they might go through after getting the scolding and all, 

I may not be the most patient person in the world. Everyone around me can agree with that. But I think it is not wrong if we try to find out the reason for something first. To be honest, it annoys me even more when someone does not give any explanation and does not even try to explain that they have actually tried hard enough. 

Seriously, once we say some weird things without thinking, it is going to hurt us even more. Especially when we are calm enough to think and realise that some things might not be able to be fixed due to the words that we have uttered. 

I remember how my dad told me a few times, "No matter how bad you want to say something because you are angry and it surely feels good to let it out, stop yourself before you say it. The after effect is going to be worse. The relationship between you and that person might not be the same after you say it. Sometimes you are angry only at that moment, but when you lash out your anger, the effect is for a loong loong time."

So~ Can we all at least TRY to give people some space and chance to defend themselves? We are never above anyone else, remember that. Even the people under you, they have the right to speak too.

Find your inner peace and let your mind fly like the birds. :)

Sunday, 4 September 2016

You look different

Lately, a lot of people have been saying that I look different. And to be more specific, they say that I have lost a lot of weight. Some even say that they get confused of me with my sister because I am no longer that chubby girl that they used to know.

People seem to always ask me the same question, "Fiqah, ko diet ke?" And automatically too, I will say that I am not on diet.

Seriously, how can I be when I dare not reduce my rice intake? I am simply a big rice eater and I can't live without rice!

But it is pretty weird of just how many people are saying the same thing. It makes me wonder if I was that chubby a few years back.

Until I came across a picture of my last day in London........ I suddenly realised just how different I looked back then.

Uhuh, yes.. That girl on the left is me. Blegh.. 

To be fair, the desserts there are just to die for! Can you imagine of the heavenly waffles, cupcakes, pancakes, ice creams, chocolates etc? And all those amazing things can actually be bought at a very low price! How can anyone resist the temptation? Right?? 

At least not me... :P

But in a serious note, I am just glad that I am not into sweet food anymore since I came back to Malaysia. It feels really good to have self-control over my eating habit now. And I am pretty sure that healthier choice of food also plays a big role in making a 'different-looking' me.

But oh well. One thing for sure, this picture will always be a good reminder of just how happy I was back then in London.:P

P/S: Don't worry. I am even happier now. :D

Thursday, 18 August 2016


Just like an egg. The longer you boil it, the harder it gets.

Similarly, the longer you wait, the harder the heart gets. For all you know, it might even have more bruises.

I long for a holiday. A very long one. A relaxing one on my own. 

Away from the hustle and bustle of the town. Away from the heartaches and annoying surroundings.

One day maybe.

One fine day.

Sunday, 31 July 2016

Lock it up

There are times when you should just keep quiet.

When people are aiming you for some reasons or another, and they are judging you before you can even defend yourself, there is just no way you can let them change their mind.

Especially when they are simply tired, lethargic, and easily agitated by even the slightest movement of your lips.

Sometimes you wish you could say something to lighten things up, but deep down, somehow you know instantaneously that nothing can be bright if it was all storm at the first sight.


I give up.

I guess I should just wait for another day.

Time heals a lot of things. Time gives people a reason to rethink. Time gives us hope.

Friday, 29 July 2016


"Good things come to those who wait."

So they say.

But you know what? I am born as an impatient person.

I hate waiting.

I hate to be kept waiting as i don't usually make people wait that long for me either.

One honest advice to everyone out there:

Just be on time.

Tuesday, 5 July 2016

Ramadan this year

We usually look for Allah's guidance when we are in pain, sorrow, or when we feel lost. Even if we do pray, during happy times, we don't do the extras as much as when we are in misery. Such hypocrites we are. 

I remember that a friend of mine said in her Facebook's status that no one in this world can say the word "love" when they are in a quarrel, feel betrayed or insulted as all the feelings of love and affections have gone. On the other hand, even if we go against Allah's orders, it is clearly stated in many surahs in the holy Al-Quran that if we repent, Allah will forgive our guilty deeds as Allah is Ever-Forgiving and Ever-Merciful. 

This Ramadan, many unforgettable incidents take place around me. On the first Ramadan itself, my car was knocked from behind while I was driving to the office. Alhamdulillah neither me nor the person who knocked my car was injured. My car was in the workshop for about 20 days so I was carless that whole time. 

During this Ramadan too, 2 of my very close friends gave birth. One of them had some complication that she had to be in the hospital for many weeks until the day that she delivered her baby. She got another complication after giving birth that she has to be closely monitored by the doctors. I got very worried of her but alhamdulillah things are getting better from the looks of it. Hope that she can be discharged soon and a second operation is not needed.

Just 3 days ago my sister told my family that my nephew was down with chicken pox, so our Eid arrangement has to be re-planned. Initially our plan was to have everyone at home on the 1st day of Eid, but since my nephew has to be quarantined and not to be in contact with others who have not got chicken pox yet, we have to make some sacrifices for this year's Eid. This also means we can't accept visitors to our house. *cries*

This morning I woke up to a very shocking news whereby there was an explosion in Madinah. Madinah! Of all places! I had to reread the news many times to make sure I didn't get the name  of the place wrong.  This Ramadan has a lot of tragedies with bombings in many Muslim countries. I can't believe how people can still relate ISIS with Islam. Obviously, there is nothing Islamic about killing innocent people.  

To sum up, it has been quite a challenging and meaningful Ramadan to most of us. With things that have been happening locally and internationally, all I can say is that aren't we lucky that we still have time to repent? To seek for forgiveness for all our mistakes and wrongdoings? Alhamdulillah we can still perform our ibadah and there are rooms for forgiveness.

Let's hope that we are given the chance to meet Ramadan again next year. At this corner, I would like to take the opportunity to say sorry to everyone who I have hurt in anyway. Ampun maaf dipinta.. Selamat Hari Raya Maaf Zahir Batin. 

   Taqabbalallahu minna wa minkum. :)