Tuesday, 10 January 2017

3 months later

You know what is sweet?

It is when you get something from someone when you least expect it.

As I am now a wife, I always expect that the norm is for me to do house chores by myself.

When le hubby voluntarily helps out to clear up the bed, to clear up his clothes, and to tidy things up, it just makes my day so so much.

Similarly, when I don't expect anything in return for the things that I do, it makes me feel warm inside to have le hubby thanking me and appreciating the small things that I do for him.

Marriage is a learning process. A process that always keeps me on my feet to be a better person.I guess that is why we are called each other's better half. I am only better when he is there with me.



Love you dearly Encik Suami! :)


Friday, 6 January 2017

Of the things i wish for in 2017

This new year, i wish i can be more determined towards achieving my own goals. The things that i imagine becoming, shouldn't stop dead in between just because  i get less support from people around.

For example, although there are times i wish i can become a nicer and more soft-spoken person, people around who are not understanding and not supportive enough can just make me more rebellious and rough. I know a change can't be achieved with just you yourself hoping for a change, but an action has to be taken. 

Therefore, this 2017, the action that i will take is to at least try not to give up easily just because of others who constantly break my heart and lower down my spirit. 

Expectations kill. So that too, will be something that i will work on. I will try to expect less from people and work harder on my own. 

Hello 2017. Please be nice to me.

How do you see yourself in 5 years?

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A fresh graduate came to our office looking very ambitious like she was ready to take up the world. When the interview started, she put her bag next to the seat she was sitting, but had her phone on the interview table.

The interview started by us asking her to introduce herself. As any other interviews, she introduced her full name and her education background. She continued by telling us how much involved she was in social activities during her university days. She also willingly told us that she only applied for a job recently, while most of her other friends had applied as early as 4 months ago.

I asked why she only applied recently, and she said that she wanted to spend some time with her family before leading her life as career woman. Throughout the interview, we were made to understand that her dad got retrenched by an Oil and Gas company a few months back, so she was planning to help her dad out in terms of money.

That got me asking again, as to why she didn’t apply earlier for a job because to me she could have helped her dad even earlier if she got a job earlier. In reply, she told us that she actually wanted to focus on her online business at that time. She told us that she was basically involved in multilevel marketing to sell food supplement.

During the whole session, her phone was beeping quite a number of times. We then had to tell her to switch her phone off and put it away.

There was one of the questions whereby we asked her on how she sees herself in 5 years’ time.
She answered that she would be having a company of her own with various industries. I further asked on how she planned to do so and she said that she would work for a year and thereafter continue with masters.

At the end of the interview, we thanked her for her time and we shook hands. She said, “Thank you kakak” and left the interview room.
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This story is based on a real interview session that took place at my office just about 2 weeks ago. In your opinion, how did she fare in this particular interview?

Personally I don’t think she was that bad. She could speak English quite well and her confidence was shown throughout the session. However, we decided to give her a thumb down.

Throughout my almost-4-years of working, I have interviewed many candidates for a few positions in our company. I could say that many interesting happenings have taken place during the interview period. Although I can see that most people get better academically throughout the years, the quality of the interview has yet to improve.

Many people come to the interview thinking that they are prepared by just dressing themselves up well. Little do they know that the important part of the job hiring still relies on the interview session itself.


In regard to the story told above, the candidate made a big error when she did not put away her phone.  To make it worse, it was not on silent mode.

Secondly, she also focused on the wrong aspect when introducing herself. The first introduction is always the best time for a candidate to impress the interviewers. She should have shown off more of her technical abilities/experiences rather than the social activities she was involved. Being active in social activities would be a plus point if she was applying for a sales manager kind of post. However, it did not interest us as much since we were looking for a person with a technical knowledge that does not involve any out of office job.

Apart from that, it is always a big no to show our laziness to our potential employer. Even if it was the truth that she started late in job hunting, it somehow shows the unseriousness of the person in applying a job or in general, in life itself. It seems like she only pushes herself when money is running out. At that situation, she shouldn’t even have mentioned about when she started applying at all.

And as for the favourite question of “How do you see you in 5 years?”, I did the same mistake too in answering the question during my own interview a few years back. Obviously for each and every question that we get, we are supposed to think before answering. The question was asked for us to explain our plans in the near future. 5 years is not that long. I also answered similar answer which was to have my own IP business. I regret saying that because seriously, it is never a nice thing to hear from an employee that she or he is leaving after working only for a short while. Like how the girl replied in her interview, she confidently said that she’s going to work for only ONE YEAR. How was that supposed to make us feel?

You might ask, what would have been the right answer then? Actually there is no perfect answer. However, in my opinion it is good to say that you would see yourself working in that company with a bigger responsibility than what you might be offered now. Show them that you are eager to see the growth of the company.

Anyway, my advice to all of you, is to just relax but at the same time be professional all the way from the beginning of the interview till the end. Personally, I feel that calling someone “kakak” is just not that professional especially when you have no idea who you are dealing with. Always address someone with proper names. You can’t go wrong by calling “Tuan” or ”Sir” when dealing with a man, and “Puan” ,“Cik” or “Miss” when dealing with a woman. Leave your “Kakak”, “Makcik”, “Abang” and “Adik” at home. :)

Saturday, 31 December 2016

#2016bestnine


I guess this year's best nine is self explanatory: Me getting married to the most understanding guy ever :)

I believe 2017 will be even more interesting as my life is not just about me anymore, but about me and my husband.

So, with this, i welcome 2017 and bye2 2016! You had been more than great! Wehewww

Monday, 26 December 2016

Full house

Do you know when i feel the happiest?

It is when all my family members are under one roof.

The reason is simple:

It keeps my mind at ease, and there is no reason why i need to hold on to my phone.

Oh well.. I hope it is always like this.


:)


Tuesday, 6 December 2016

The opposite effect

When i give a smile but a scowl is what you receive.

When i show an excitement but an anger is what you perceive.

I just don't know what else to do or what else to say.

Maybe i should just let you feel or do as you may. 

Saturday, 3 December 2016

Views

We usually have various perspectives on a lot of things in life. The way one think might differ from the other. But we usually feel that our way of thinking is better than other people's way of thinking.

And that, is obviously normal.

However, no matter how different we are compared to other people, it's good to always have an open mind and an open heart to others' point of view as well.

Yes, it is perfectly understandable if we think we are right, but it is even better if we don't simply say that other people are wrong.

Make our own assessment and let's try to be a good person from the assessment. Just never easily judge or generalise people as we may then become the target for people to judge us back one day.

In conclusion, just be the better person.

Friday, 14 October 2016

Of my gratitude and wedding speech




Alhamdulillah, on the 7th October 2016 after Asar prayer, I became a wife to a kind-hearted,  understanding, caring man. Yes, Abang Abdul Rasyid bin Abang Yusop had taken my hand in marriage and I am so grateful that everything turned out well. :)

On the 8th October 2016, we had our reception at Dewan Perdana Felda and I had an opportunity to express my gratitude to all my friends who have crossed path with me all this while. Glad I have attentive audience that night that I could deliver it well, alhamdulillah!

As I really hope I can remember the things I have spoken that night, I would like to share with all of you the content of my speech. :)

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Bismillahirrahmanirrahim,

Assalamualaikum wbt and a very good evening everyone.

Hello, I am Afiqah, the bride for today. :) 

I know it is not really a norm for a bride to give a speech in a Malay wedding, but I bet those who know me well are not surprised as I always want to have a few words, and that of course, includes my very own big day.  

So… First and foremost, I would like to personally thank all family and friends from far and near for being here tonight. You all have no idea how much I appreciate your time and effort to be a part of this ceremony.

The day I told my close friends that Rasyid’s family was coming from Kuching to meet my family for merisik, I can vividly remember the joy they shared with me. The excitement that they showed was contagious that I think I almost forgot to feel nervous. I think I know why they were simply excited for me. It’s because I’ve never had anyone special in my life before Rasyid. As expected, my friends gave me some tips on what and what not to do on that day. The best piece of advice that still sticks in my mind would be: “Afiqah, whatever it is, just don’t be yourself.“

Hurm~ I think my friends are just scared that I might end up lonely. :P

Anyway, in all seriousness, I really am thankful to have great companions throughout my life. Since my school days, university days and up till now, my working days, those who have crossed path with me have without a doubt made an impact in my life. Please allow me to thank them as a token of appreciation for being here with us tonight.

To my school friends whom I grew up with, THANK YOU for being the best of friends I could ever have. You guys are the ones who really know and understand me well. My ex-classmates, dormmates, and simply my batchmates, THANK YOU for showing what our worth is to our beloved school, Sekolah Menengah Sains Selangor. We had gone through so much as a batch and all memories during the trying days especially those days without water, and times when we skipped prep petang or main petang, or curi2 praying in the dorm. Those were the beautiful days which I am quite sure we will never forget.

To my friends from Ambang Asuhan Jepun, AAJ, THANK YOU for being such an inspiration to me. Without all of you, I can’t imagine going through the tough days of having quizzes and tests almost everyday, memorizing all the kanji, and finishing the never ending tutorials. YOU guys are the true definition of determination. Without a doubt, getting the opportunity to fly together to Japan is one of the best memories that we created together.

To my favourite people from Kobe University of Japan, you guys are simply amazing. THANK YOU for showing LOVE like a family when our real families were far away back in Malaysia. THANK YOU for the time well spent cooking, makan2, sightseeing and simply just hanging out together at one another’s house sampai tak reti2 nak balik. Watashiwa itsumo minna no tame ni go ryouri wo tsukuru koto wa zettai wasurenai de kudasai!.... Jyoudan tte, wakaru deshou? :p tonikaku, iro iro tatsudatte kurete, arigatou. Minna ga saikou desu. :p

My friends from IB, although I was there for just 3 months, THANK YOU for accepting me as if I was a real stuff working there. I know that most of the time we were just having fun in ‘bilik crew’, but I have learned so much during the short period of time. And oh, THANK YOU for the free tickets to some shows as well, I love you all. <3 font="">

To my friends from King’s College London, you guys simply rock. THANK YOU for all the fun time we shared together. THANK YOU for showing me how much fun a Master’s student can have despite our busy schedule. You guys are the reason I got fat in London, ok! Anyway, I really hope we can materialize our London reunion in the future. :)

Now I am already working in the line of Intellectual Property, I have met so many influential people who have inspired me to become someone in this line in the future. THANK YOU so much for those who have showed me how interesting this line can be. And of course, THANK YOU to my current, as well as ex colleagues, who are super crazy and have been the highlight of my everyday life. YOU guys are the reason why the office is always noisy and never boring.

Last but never the least, my FAMILY. I can never THANK my family enough for simply everything you all have done for me. Since I was just a baby till now that I am a married lady, you are the ones who have never left me, and always believe in me. THANK YOU for your endless support in whatever I do, in my education, profession, and even love life. You all are the sunshine of my life. To all my siblings, thank you for being the best siblings I have ever asked for, for being the shoulder to cry on and for me to pour almost everything on. 

To Ayah and Mummy, I am so blessed to have the both of you as my ever loving and at the same time sporting parents. I know the both of you are always worried of me as I am your little baby girl, but I hope you can keep on praying for me just like how you always do in your prayers, so that Rasyid and I will be anak soleh and solehah, and I, from now on to be a good wife to Rasyid. I love you so much and THANK YOU for raising me.

To my beloved husband, THANK YOU for choosing me as your one and only. I can only say that I am very lucky to finally meet my very own Mr. Right. Let’s make this journey of ours a beautiful one. The one we can always cherish till our end of time. I love you.

And with that, I THANK all of you again. Enjoy the rest of your night!


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 Yuhuuuuu~~ I have a husband already! hehe.. alhamdulillah! :)

Friday, 23 September 2016

Waras

Sometimes I really feel like following my heart and just do weird and crazy things. However at the same time, sanity keeps me from doing them.

If I am much younger, I might just do whatever that crosses my mind at a particular time without considering much the consequences.

But now?

Syukurlah saya masih waras.


Sangat waras :D

Wednesday, 14 September 2016

Missing the lights and the blue sky of Minato Mirai


No matter how many times 



 I have been here,



Either with family 



Or with friends,



 I will always want to come here again.


Dear Yokohama, I wil be back. 



One day, InsyaAllah :)