Wednesday, 24 May 2017

24 hours in a day

Allah gives us all equally the same amount of time in a day. 24 hours in a day.

That should be ample time for us to work, to pray and to have some time for ourselves.

If we are not able fulfill our everyday responsibility within that 24 hours, it is not the fault of that fixed time frame. It is us who fail to manage, who fail to plan and worst of all is us who keep on giving excuses on why we are failing.

Stupid of us to not use time wisely.

Even more stupid of us if we keep on giving excuses.

Keep on doing that and we will be those who are at lost.

Thursday, 11 May 2017

Your smile is more powerful

Positive people give positive vibes. Negative people obviously spread negative vibes.

No wonder I prefer leaving a place earlier than usual when there is even the slightest vibe of negativity.

Why bother when a person is in a bad mood. Just leave and give a smile. Who knows your smile is contagious enough to change the person's mood.

Oh well.. I'm just too contented with life that I choose to just ignore mood spoilers. :)


Saturday, 6 May 2017

Keep calm and move on

Friends?

They are indeed important. But i can't agree more with my dad when he says that "Don't try to be popular with your friends. At the end of the day family is all that you have."

As my age increases, I very much understand how right he is. Friends who then promised to be there through your thick and thin, will sooner or later drift away. Especially once they have their own small family unit, they are bound to be 'missing' from your life.

I have a very very close friend of mine whom I could call a sister when I was in secondary school. We got so close that my family members knew her well and treated her just like family. When we left school, we still kept in touch and promised to keep each other updated with life.

However, something must have happened on her side which I have no idea till now as to why she didn't pick up my phone anymore. As to why she didn't care to be a friend anymore. I remember that I kept trying to reach her through many ways, but it lead to nowhere. To the point that some of my family members asked me to move on.

To move on from that friendship.

One day she finally contacted me via email. Saying that she's alright and she couldn't get any better friend than me. She said she couldn't tell me the reason why, but she would always watch my progress from afar.

And in that email, she told me that she was about to get married.

I didn't know what to feel. Relief. Disappointed. Happy. All in one emotion. I was relief and happy that she finally responded to my effort. And disappointed that she couldn't trust me with her secret. Another side is also, I was a bit upset that she didn't invite me to her wedding. Even in that email. (Maybe she was indirectly inviting me by telling me the news? I'm not sure.)

That was the last email I received from her. Which was in 2009. And a few weeks later after the email, I got to know from my other friend that she finally got married. I'm happy for her for getting married to a good religious guy whom she had been telling me about since I knew her, but at the same time, I was so disappointed that our old dreams were not realised.

The younger us always laughed off at the thought of who would get married first. We dreamt of being each other's pengapit during our big days. And it turned out, I was not there for her during her wedding, and she did not reply to my wedding invitation.

My mom however, since many years ago that my friend got missing, asked me to think positively. She said she knows that she is a very kind hearted girl and there must be a pretty good reason of her doing that.

Seriously speaking, i have. I have tried to think of only the good things. But you know what? I am just a human being. I still somehow up till today wonder what ever has happened.

And to be honest, she frequently visits my dreams and in those dreams, I wish she could tell me the reason behind her act. And in some dreams, we were already in talking terms and I couldn't be happier.

But of course, those are just unreal.

Today, everytime I see a friend that has 'gone' away from my life, I just wish quietly in my heart,and I pray that they are doing well. Even if I do miss their presence in my life once in a while, it is good enough to know that they have no hatred towards me.

Things might not be the same between me and them anymore, but now I guess I am more open to accept that I am happy enough to at least have some good memories with them.

So in this lengthy post, I just want to wish thank you to my true friends who really keep me in your life till this day. You all whom I need not try to be popular or try hard to win your hearts. I am blessed to have you guys around.

Yang jauh kat Terengganu, kat Kuala Selangor, Klang, Sijangkang, dan mana2 yang rajin contact tak kiralah whatsapp ke apa, sayang korang sangat2. :)

And to my family and dearest hubby, you guys make me realise that even if my friends unintentionally have somehow drifted away from my life, my quality of life is nothing less than great.

Oh wow.. I really love my family to the moon and back. :)



Unrelated picture: Lake Garden in KL, my newly found favourite spot :P



Friday, 31 March 2017

On replay

It's like a loop. Everyday. On replay.

And I am so tired of this loop.


Shall we get off this loop once in a while? 

Mature Discussion

It is somehow a norm nowadays to see people bashing other people on social media. More often being called as the "keyboard warriors", these are the people who shoot ideas from their fingers, and nothing from the brain.

I have respect for those who have a different stance from me either politically or in ideology if the person has a solid reason to support their judgement. As there are things which cannot be clearly determined as black or white, people have the right to have a different opinion on something.

However, I find it truly sickening when people say something just because they have read something most probably from Facebook shared articles or the forwarded messages in Whatsapp, which the source might not even be credible. More worrying is when they have a stance on something because of people's stories which they have heard and those are not even first hand stories. 

These people can also appear very religious and preach about how fitnah is bad and all, but in the end, they are the ones who send all these forwarded messages as if they know how genuine and real the messages are. When people advise them nicely on how they might be wrong on something, they get agitated and start shooting all the blames on the person they dislike.

Even if the rain falls, they might say it's all the person's doing. How stupid is that?

Afterall, I know that everyone has good and bad sides. But is it hard to give credit where it is due?

For example, if the Government has successfully saved the Malaysians in Pyongyang, why should you mention about GST in that post? I find it stupid and so childish. 

I am not asking for people to be hypocritical and start saying all the good things about someone that they believe to be bad. Try being fair and show that you are at least someone who is rational, mature, and have a good heart. Not just a stupid keyboard warrior believing that everything is bad.  

Wednesday, 1 February 2017

The rise of the Muslims

I guess we should think positively about Trump. Dont you see that the bond between us Muslims are getting stronger now? 

And don't you think that even the non-Muslims can see just how ridiculous Trump is becoming?

Bring it on Trump.

We have Allah and you have Fear in yourself.

Tuesday, 10 January 2017

3 months later

You know what is sweet?

It is when you get something from someone when you least expect it.

As I am now a wife, I always expect that the norm is for me to do house chores by myself.

When le hubby voluntarily helps out to clear up the bed, to clear up his clothes, and to tidy things up, it just makes my day so so much.

Similarly, when I don't expect anything in return for the things that I do, it makes me feel warm inside to have le hubby thanking me and appreciating the small things that I do for him.

Marriage is a learning process. A process that always keeps me on my feet to be a better person.I guess that is why we are called each other's better half. I am only better when he is there with me.



Love you dearly Encik Suami! :)


Friday, 6 January 2017

Of the things i wish for in 2017

This new year, i wish i can be more determined towards achieving my own goals. The things that i imagine becoming, shouldn't stop dead in between just because  i get less support from people around.

For example, although there are times i wish i can become a nicer and more soft-spoken person, people around who are not understanding and not supportive enough can just make me more rebellious and rough. I know a change can't be achieved with just you yourself hoping for a change, but an action has to be taken. 

Therefore, this 2017, the action that i will take is to at least try not to give up easily just because of others who constantly break my heart and lower down my spirit. 

Expectations kill. So that too, will be something that i will work on. I will try to expect less from people and work harder on my own. 

Hello 2017. Please be nice to me.

How do you see yourself in 5 years?

***
A fresh graduate came to our office looking very ambitious like she was ready to take up the world. When the interview started, she put her bag next to the seat she was sitting, but had her phone on the interview table.

The interview started by us asking her to introduce herself. As any other interviews, she introduced her full name and her education background. She continued by telling us how much involved she was in social activities during her university days. She also willingly told us that she only applied for a job recently, while most of her other friends had applied as early as 4 months ago.

I asked why she only applied recently, and she said that she wanted to spend some time with her family before leading her life as career woman. Throughout the interview, we were made to understand that her dad got retrenched by an Oil and Gas company a few months back, so she was planning to help her dad out in terms of money.

That got me asking again, as to why she didn’t apply earlier for a job because to me she could have helped her dad even earlier if she got a job earlier. In reply, she told us that she actually wanted to focus on her online business at that time. She told us that she was basically involved in multilevel marketing to sell food supplement.

During the whole session, her phone was beeping quite a number of times. We then had to tell her to switch her phone off and put it away.

There was one of the questions whereby we asked her on how she sees herself in 5 years’ time.
She answered that she would be having a company of her own with various industries. I further asked on how she planned to do so and she said that she would work for a year and thereafter continue with masters.

At the end of the interview, we thanked her for her time and we shook hands. She said, “Thank you kakak” and left the interview room.
***


This story is based on a real interview session that took place at my office just about 2 weeks ago. In your opinion, how did she fare in this particular interview?

Personally I don’t think she was that bad. She could speak English quite well and her confidence was shown throughout the session. However, we decided to give her a thumb down.

Throughout my almost-4-years of working, I have interviewed many candidates for a few positions in our company. I could say that many interesting happenings have taken place during the interview period. Although I can see that most people get better academically throughout the years, the quality of the interview has yet to improve.

Many people come to the interview thinking that they are prepared by just dressing themselves up well. Little do they know that the important part of the job hiring still relies on the interview session itself.


In regard to the story told above, the candidate made a big error when she did not put away her phone.  To make it worse, it was not on silent mode.

Secondly, she also focused on the wrong aspect when introducing herself. The first introduction is always the best time for a candidate to impress the interviewers. She should have shown off more of her technical abilities/experiences rather than the social activities she was involved. Being active in social activities would be a plus point if she was applying for a sales manager kind of post. However, it did not interest us as much since we were looking for a person with a technical knowledge that does not involve any out of office job.

Apart from that, it is always a big no to show our laziness to our potential employer. Even if it was the truth that she started late in job hunting, it somehow shows the unseriousness of the person in applying a job or in general, in life itself. It seems like she only pushes herself when money is running out. At that situation, she shouldn’t even have mentioned about when she started applying at all.

And as for the favourite question of “How do you see you in 5 years?”, I did the same mistake too in answering the question during my own interview a few years back. Obviously for each and every question that we get, we are supposed to think before answering. The question was asked for us to explain our plans in the near future. 5 years is not that long. I also answered similar answer which was to have my own IP business. I regret saying that because seriously, it is never a nice thing to hear from an employee that she or he is leaving after working only for a short while. Like how the girl replied in her interview, she confidently said that she’s going to work for only ONE YEAR. How was that supposed to make us feel?

You might ask, what would have been the right answer then? Actually there is no perfect answer. However, in my opinion it is good to say that you would see yourself working in that company with a bigger responsibility than what you might be offered now. Show them that you are eager to see the growth of the company.

Anyway, my advice to all of you, is to just relax but at the same time be professional all the way from the beginning of the interview till the end. Personally, I feel that calling someone “kakak” is just not that professional especially when you have no idea who you are dealing with. Always address someone with proper names. You can’t go wrong by calling “Tuan” or ”Sir” when dealing with a man, and “Puan” ,“Cik” or “Miss” when dealing with a woman. Leave your “Kakak”, “Makcik”, “Abang” and “Adik” at home. :)

Saturday, 31 December 2016

#2016bestnine


I guess this year's best nine is self explanatory: Me getting married to the most understanding guy ever :)

I believe 2017 will be even more interesting as my life is not just about me anymore, but about me and my husband.

So, with this, i welcome 2017 and bye2 2016! You had been more than great! Wehewww