Tuesday, 5 August 2014

Are we choosy creatures?

How far are we willing to change for another person?

Some people say people should accept how a person is, no matter what his or her flaws are. Accepting is easier than trying to change someone (really?). Well, as long as those flaws do not kill us, I suppose it is worth tolerating. 

However, I sometimes wonder how people actually see something as a flaw and to what extend do people have to tolerate that so-called flaw? If something is against the natural behaviour of mankind it is understandable, but if it is only against one's personal belief and opinion, is it even considered as a flaw? 

Or is it what we call as... being judgemental (or choosy)?

It is easier to accept our family because we can't choose them. No matter how far we may run, we are still related to our family through blood and nothing can change that fact. However, since we are able to choose the kind of people who we want to spend our lives with (daily or for eternity), we tend to become picky. 

Being picky is healthy at times because we are the ones that design our own lives. Without the right people in our lives, we might get a bad ending. Of which, we do not want to have.  

On the other hand, if we are too picky and too judgemental on others, that somehow, may become the end for us. Not only people will leave us for our picky behaviour, but also because they themselves do not want to be judged.

Of course, unless the people around us are willing to change for us. Then that's another story.

Confused with this post? I think I am.


  1. Hard to say. sometimes human emotions (hate,love) can easily compromise our principles and personal belief hence making it easy for us in accepting/rejecting any flaws that exist. Actually i dont know what im talking about. :D

    “Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.”
    - George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

    1. Well, u sure know what u are talking about. Coz I think there are quite a lot of people like that. For example,there are some people who say they hate smokers, but at the end of the day, they get a smoker as a husband. Hurm.. All of a sudden they are forgiving la plak kan? :P

      wow, Game of Thrones jugak.. hahahah

  2. Salam Afiqah. Nice post u got here :) As for me, I used to have a hatelist back then. Whenever I hate someone due to whatever reason, I'll put them in the hatelist. Haha. Now I learned and read a lot about being positive, half glass full, everyone makes mistakes, nobodys perfect etc etc etccccccc, alhamdulillah I already DELETED my hatelist and live positively. After all, life's short kan :)

    1. Salam Kausar. Glad to know that u no longer have that list. People would be devastated if they ever know that they are in the list. :P Nway, I totally agree with u. Life is too short to just think about ourselves and see that others are always in the wrong. Having positive attitude towards a lot of things is more rewarding. :)