Tuesday, 24 May 2016

Quality and Quantity

I love talking. No one that knows me well would deny the fact that I just can't stop talking when I am in a good mood. It is even better when I get to talk to people who are knowledgeable and are willing to share some of their valuable life experiences.

Sometimes you can have a really good conversation with the most random people and you know it's a good talk when it sticks in your mind. 

So I was riding an uber to my office on a Friday morning. During the whole ride, we had no silent moment as I realised he did most of the talking while I was intensely listening to his interesting thoughts. (I can be a good listener too ok, not just a talker).

Basically he is an uncle with 2 grown up children. He said that in current days, people are working very hard to achieve a certain lifestyle that they think is suitable for them. Sometimes that lifestyle is just a matter of what they want people to see them having, but it is not really what they need. 

For example, people buy expensive clothes for their children just for show, just for people to see. In actual fact, what the kids probably need is a practical clothing and it might not even be that expensive. Just for that kind of lifestyle people work so hard that they have no life balance anymore. 

He also mentioned that people nowadays love boasting of how they have quality time with their kids at home. Quality time is translated as having dinner together as a family and a time where they update each other of their daily lives. However, what they don't realise is that what they perceive as quality time might not even be quality time for the children. To use his words: "Syok sendiri saja mungkin."

Parents should know that quantity time is equally as important as quality time. What the children need is to have a peace of mind, of knowing that their parents are always there for them. Even if they are not talking, presence means a lot.

To be honest, I was so shocked to hear his words. It never crossed my mind of how quantity time is just as important. Maybe it's because I always have my parents wih me when I was young. They worked from 7.30am to 4.30pm and they were always around for me even during weekdays. Alhamdulillah, I am so blessed. :)

However, things have really changed nowadays with the young parents. Most young generations are ambitious.  To be fair, maybe the economy is equally not so good that people just have to push themselves further to make ends meet.

In all honesty, I don't mind if woking like crazy is the only option for us to survive in this world. But if we work with no life balance just to keep up with other people's lifestyle and expectations,  I think it's about time for us to rethink and open up our eyes to see the things that really matter in this world.

Thanks Uncle Uber. You have opened up my mind to a certain degree. :)